Monday Motivation: Say No, Do What You Want

Well, hello world! It’s been a while since I’ve written my last post. I’ve missed you! I’ve missed writing! Most of all, I’ve missed working through my thoughts — it’s therapeutic!

In life, we’re given this narrative of what we’re supposed to do. We’re supposed to go to school. We’re supposed to graduate and get a job and live happily ever after.

It isn’t that easy though, especially if you don’t follow the path of what you’re supposed to do. It comes down to the choice of what you’re supposed to do and what you want to do.

As I watched 27 Dresses the other day, one quote struck a chord within me. As Jane, played by Katherine Heigl, walked out of her sister’s engagement party where she was supposed to be the perfect bridesmaid, Kevin, James Marsden’s character, said, “You can say no, and you can do what you want. What do you want?”

You have the power to say no. It’s your life. They’re your decisions and and you have to live with them. If the situation is not right for you, then say no. You have the authority to create the life you want on your own terms.

In the end, if you love your decisions, then you do not need other people to be happy with them.

Create your life for you. Regret nothing.


Castle: Holy. Fangirling. Season 5 Promo

“So it wasn’t a dream,” Castle asked as Beckett gleefully smiles in a white button-down shirt.

Holy. Fangirling.

I was excited for the season premiere of Castle on Monday, Sept. 24, but now I’m ECSTATIC — Not just ecstatic, but ECSTATIC.

Spoiler alert — If you haven’t finished season four, stop reading this post now and proceed to watching season four in its entirety.

If you have finished season four, then please feel free to join me in the fangirl section after watching the first promo released by ABC.

Here it is:

Please join me in complete Castle bliss, and this is just the beginning, my fellow Castle fans.

The first episode of Castle, “After the Storm,” premieres on ABC on Monday, Sept. 24 — less than a month!

Monday Motivation: If Life Hands You Color, Run With It

The Color Run. How can you not be happy after being splashed in bright colors?

On Sunday, July 15, I will be running The Color Run 5k in St. Paul, Minn. For those of you who do not know, The Color Run is a 5K run not about being the fastest runner, but rather about being the happiest participant despite any flaws you may think you have. And, more importantly, it’s about getting bathed in the colors as you run or walk the course.

So, the question is, what makes you happy? Friends? Family? Work? Reading? Coffee? You get the point, but what ever it is, go do it more often.

Often times we know exactly what it is that makes us happy but our heads complicate situations. Don’t over think your happiness. Don’t complicate it. It’s simple. Everyone has something to be happy about. Decide what you are happy about, or what you wake up every day with a passion to do. Now, go do it. Simple.

Do more of what makes you happy. Easy enough, right?Stop judging yourself by the definition of what everyone else thinks you should be. Live for you. Be happy. Build your own path of happiness and enjoy the journey because, after all, you are worth it.

If you don’t want to be happy for yourself, then who else would want to be happy for you?

As you ponder that question, let me leave you with one of my favorite quotes, “Be so happy that when others look at you they become happy, too.”


Happy Birthday, America!

Dearest America,

Happy birthday! Birthdays are a time to celebrate your being, your existence and, most importantly, a time to raise a glass.

Empire State Building, New York, New York

For 24 years, I’ve had the privilege of living in the greatest country on earth, which is home to some of the most magnificent places. America, while I don’t always see eye-to-eye with everyone in this country, you are the common bond we all share. You are full of history, traditions and people that cannot be found elsewhere.

So, let’s put our labels aside and celebrate the American thread that runs deep within all of us.

In honor of your birthday, I dedicate the sparkler show in my front yard tonight to you.

Happy birthday, America!


a proud citizen of the United States of America

Monday Motivation: Your Create Beauty

OK, so it isn’t Monday. But, better late than never, right?

Plus, this post is inspired by my birthday, which is today. Don’t worry people — this post isn’t going to celebrate my life because who would that be fun for, besides my mom and dad?

A birthday is a day for friends and family to celebrate the life and being of one person. But, it dawned on me today, why don’t we focus our energy externally and celebrate strangers — the person sitting across from you on the bus, the person walking down the street, the person in front of you in line at Starbucks?

Many Monday Motivations focus on how to be internally resilient. This Monday Motivation is to make the world a more beautiful place. And, you have the ability to make stranger’s world a brighter place.

Do you remember the last time someone complimented you? How did you feel after you received that compliment? That feeling is unforgettable.

As a birthday present to me, I challenge you to make someone’s day. Do something you normally wouldn’t do. Get out of your comfort zone. I’m sure you’ll find it’s exhilarating.

I’d call this a self-less good deed, but I’m always reminded of the Friends episode where Phoebe tries to prove to Joey there’s such a thing as a self-less good deed.

But, in the end, beauty is created by you — your attitude, your behavior, your actions — it’s all up to you.

Make the world a more beautiful place!

For Lovers Only: Available For Your Netflix Viewing Pleasure

Source: For Lovers Only Movie Website

With great pleasure, I’m excited to announce that For Lovers Only, one of my personal favorite movies, is now available on Netflix Instant, for your viewing pleasure.

Until now, it had been available for purchase and to rent on Itunes and Amazon, which had deterred many of my friends from watching it but now there’s absolutely no reason — it’s included in your Netflix Instant subscription! Unless, of course, you don’t have a subscription to Netflix and, as a result, you should consider getting one to view this film.

For Lovers Only is the story of a man and a woman, former lovers, who bump into each other on the streets of Paris. These two cannot resist their undeniable chemistry, which leads them on a journey around France.

Not only does the simplicity of the plot speak volumes, it is one of the most breathtakingly beautiful films ever. What’s more, it’s in black and white, which is a welcomed changed from the overly digitally rendered films distributed today.

“This picture is a study and meditation on two LOVERS,” according to the film’s website. “A picture that practices restraint and embraces limitation–that allows the viewer to hold no judgment on the LOVERS behavior, but to accept these two and their passion for one another as something beautiful and rare.”

And, For Lovers Only, a film that has set the standard for straight-to-iTunes releaseses, does just that.

Honestly, don’t take my word for it. Grab a bottle of wine, a few glasses and embrace For Lovers Only — starring Mark Polish and Stana Katic — for everything that it is.

For more information on For Lovers Only, please visit the following websites:

Monday Motivation: Just Be Happy

We wake up. We rush out the door. We head to work. We head in the direction of life. We get caught up in the logistics. But, how often do you pause and acknowledge what you have to be happy about right now?

You have your health, family, friends and knowledge.

During the pursuit of our happiness, we forget to be happy for what we have right now. We’re always trying to get somewhere else — be happier than we are in this moment.

Pursuing your dreams of happiness is not bad but, take a moment, reflect on what you have to be happy about at this point in the journey.

If you don’t realize how happy you are in this moment, then how will you be able to truly measure your happiness once you’ve reached that goal?

I’m just as guilty as the next person. Once again, let’s walk down the road to the corner or college graduation and job searching. My ultimate dream of happiness is quite clear, so I often forget to be happy for where I am right now and where I am going.

This past weekend I was fortunate enough to attend my cousin’s bridal shower and, to my luck, my aunt has a trampoline, where I spent countless hours jumping after the party.

To quote Manny from ABC’s Modern Family, “Who’d enjoy that I thought? A kid. You were right — I was born 16. I’ve lost my childhood.”

While Manny is a mature 12-year-old boy, I am 23 year and take myself too seriously. Don’t get me wrong — I love to laugh just as much as the next person, probably even more so. But, it’s nice to let your inner child out every now and then.

Moral of the story — be happy for how far you’ve come on the journey to happiness. Do something out of the ordinary. Let your inner child out. I did and it was great.

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