Motivation Monday: Ask Questions, Seek Answers

The unknown is scary. It’s unfamiliar, why wouldn’t it be daunting? Make the unknown less scary — ask questions, seek answers. Don’t be afraid to speak up.

On Sunday, 40-year-old Wade Michael Page allegedly shot people at a Sikh temple in a suburb of Milwaukee, Wis., according to CNN. Page, a former soldier, was the lead singer of “End Apathy,” a white-power rock band who also has a tattoo of the Celtic Cross — a symbol adopted by white supremacists groups, according to CNN.

This shooting coming weeks after the massacre in Aurora, Colo. at the midnight premiere of The Dark Knight Rises. I’m left baffled. These men were capable of legally purchasing firearms, but failed to acknowledge the commonalities that unite us — the commonalities that bind us to one another.

Since Sept. 11, the world has transformed into a place where we are hyper-vigilant of our differences. Most of us, afraid of the unknown, look the other way and do not inquire about lifestyles that are different from our own. Why is that?

Today, my brother, who is deaf and is traveling with other deaf and hard-of-hearing people from Las Vegas to Minneapolis, encountered his own bought of discrimination.

Before I continue, I tell you this not for pity but, rather, to raise awareness. As my brother and his friends waited for their flight, they decided to eat at Ruby Tuesday’s. He writes his order on his cell phone as a means of successfully communicating with individuals who are unfamiliar with sign language. The employee at Ruby Tuesday’s proceeded to say that they could not understand his language there and he could not order.

Once again, this isn’t a story about pity. He has been deaf his entire life and is capable of functioning like any hearing individual. It’s a story about people who are afraid to ask questions and embrace our differences.

Thankfully, one of his hard-of-hearing friends let the employee and the management at Ruby Tuesday’s have an ear full, so to speak. This discrimination ended in a free meal.

It should be more than that. That individual represents the people who are afraid of the unknown and afraid to ask questions about our differences.

Let’s channel our anger (or my anger) into motivation. Let’s turn it into an opportunity to teach people.

Let’s make the unknown familiar — Let’s embrace our differences for what they are. Let’s understand the implications they have on our lives. And, more importantly, let’s embrace each other.

My outlook may be too romanticized, but you have to start somewhere, right?


Happy Monday, my friends!


Monday Motivation: Decide How You Want Your Life to Be

Let me warn you, this Monday Motivation is going to be a borderline rant. Oh, who am I kidding? This is completely and 100 percent a rant, but I am using it as motivation.

So, here it goes.

Why is it that some people still continue to measure another person’s worth based on whether or not they have a boyfriend and not on their intellectual achievements. Let me add some context.

Take your time to decide.

This past weekend, I was at a family gathering and my aunt and uncle, not once but numerous times throughout the night, proceeded to ask me if my new car, which I had just bought a week earlier, helped me get a boyfriend. One, I don’t have a boyfriend. Two, my lack of a boyfriend isn’t a problem for me — I’m picky and I know it (Maybe LMFAO should turn that into a song). Finally, yes, aunt and uncle, my new car is going to bring all the boys to the yard. Seriously?!

Please, by all means, measure my worth based on my lack of boyfriend. Don’t congratulate me on graduating from college. Don’t congratulate me on having numerous internship and work experiences. Don’t congratulate me on the fact that I am currently exploring Master’s Degree programs. Don’t congratulate me on being a self-assured young woman.

I’m of the opinion that it’s better to know and love who you are before entering into a relationship, so you can find somebody that loves the you you love. Whereas, many people use relationships as a place to hide from who they really are. Not everyone, but some people do this. And, I’m not saying being in a relationship is a bad thing.

You get to decide  how you want to live your life. Please take my anger and turn it into a celebration of you — celebrate anything and everything you love about yourself.

After all, if you don’t love yourself, then why would anyone else love you?

Remember, you decide how you want your life to be. Don’t define it based on what you think other people want to see or believe you should be doing.

Run wild until you find someone to run with.

Heck, I graduated from college in December and have yet to find a full-time job. In the meantime, I am working two part-time jobs, have an internship and volunteer at a local media organization. This works for me right now, and I know that it will lead to bigger and better outcomes in the future. Other people, believe otherwise and have other opinions but it’s not their life.

Decide who you want to be and how you want to live and don’t hold anything back. No regrets. And, more importantly, don’t mask who you are for the sanctity of a relationship.

Monday Motivation: You Create Beauty

No matter what, some days you don’t want to get out of bed. Today was one of those days for me.

Far too much work this weekend and not enough sleep. What’s more, my sister dragged me to a sky aerobics class (an aerobic workout infused with trampolines) first thing this morning. I had very little coffee and a bad attitude but, once I decided to get over it my mental negativity, I immediately started to enjoy this new experience. I welcomed new challenges.

Our physical abilities are, typically, not what hold us back in life. But rather, it’s out mental abilities and that includes your attitude.

Instead of acknowledging what you cannot do, address what you can do and how far you’ve come. And, like last’s monday’s motivation, be better than the person you were yesterday.

Strive for positivity, seek a challenge and see the beauty in every one of your attempts.

You hold the power to define what beauty is.

Happy Monday!