Monday Motivation: Decide How You Want Your Life to Be

Let me warn you, this Monday Motivation is going to be a borderline rant. Oh, who am I kidding? This is completely and 100 percent a rant, but I am using it as motivation.

So, here it goes.

Why is it that some people still continue to measure another person’s worth based on whether or not they have a boyfriend and not on their intellectual achievements. Let me add some context.

Take your time to decide.

This past weekend, I was at a family gathering and my aunt and uncle, not once but numerous times throughout the night, proceeded to ask me if my new car, which I had just bought a week earlier, helped me get a boyfriend. One, I don’t have a boyfriend. Two, my lack of a boyfriend isn’t a problem for me — I’m picky and I know it (Maybe LMFAO should turn that into a song). Finally, yes, aunt and uncle, my new car is going to bring all the boys to the yard. Seriously?!

Please, by all means, measure my worth based on my lack of boyfriend. Don’t congratulate me on graduating from college. Don’t congratulate me on having numerous internship and work experiences. Don’t congratulate me on the fact that I am currently exploring Master’s Degree programs. Don’t congratulate me on being a self-assured young woman.

I’m of the opinion that it’s better to know and love who you are before entering into a relationship, so you can find somebody that loves the you you love. Whereas, many people use relationships as a place to hide from who they really are. Not everyone, but some people do this. And, I’m not saying being in a relationship is a bad thing.

You get to decide ¬†how you want to live your life. Please take my anger and turn it into a celebration of you — celebrate anything and everything you love about yourself.

After all, if you don’t love yourself, then why would anyone else love you?

Remember, you decide how you want your life to be. Don’t define it based on what you think other people want to see or believe you should be doing.

Run wild until you find someone to run with.

Heck, I graduated from college in December and have yet to find a full-time job. In the meantime, I am working two part-time jobs, have an internship and volunteer at a local media organization. This works for me right now, and I know that it will lead to bigger and better outcomes in the future. Other people, believe otherwise and have other opinions but it’s not their life.

Decide who you want to be and how you want to live and don’t hold anything back. No regrets. And, more importantly, don’t mask who you are for the sanctity of a relationship.


Monday Motivation: Redirected to Something Better

OK — It isn’t Monday, but better late than never and this is quite befitting of my Monday.

While I can’t say I was rejected in any way on Monday, I did have another job interview, which means opening yourself up to the possibility of rejection. The possibility of rejection is a far better risk than not trying at all.

And, if there’s one thing I’ve learned over the past few months since graduation, being rejected points you in a more focused direction.¬†Rejection teaches you about yourself, if you’re willing to learn from the experience. Rejection makes your vision that much more clear.

Sometimes rejection doesn’t feel like it’s pointing you in the direction of something better. Sometimes the moment isn’t one of clarity. Allow yourself to feel the emotions of rejection. But, step back, take it day by day and decide how you’re going to handle rejection.

There’s a Castle quote for everything. Insert here:

“Rejection isn’t failure,” Castle said. “It sure feels like failure,” Alexis, his daughter, responded in a moment of defeat. “Failure is giving up. Everybody gets rejected. It’s how you handle it that determines where you’ll end up,” Castle explained. “My whole life has been about making sure I could get into any college I wanted — What’s it about now?” Alexis asked. “Give it time. You’ll figure it out,” Castle assured her.

Feel the rejection. And, when you finally get what you’ve worked for — everything you’ve ever wanted — you will know what true happiness feels like because you can measure it against rejection.

Remember, while you thought you were being rejected from what you wanted, your direction was becoming more focused, and, in the end, you’ll know what happiness feels like when you achieve your dreams, goals and vision because you’ve felt rejection.

Be happy for what you have right now and learn from your life’s redirection. With time, your new, focused direction will become more clear.

In the end, do you want it badly enough to get over being hurt?