Let me warn you, this Monday Motivation is going to be a borderline rant. Oh, who am I kidding? This is completely and 100 percent a rant, but I am using it as motivation.
So, here it goes.
Why is it that some people still continue to measure another person’s worth based on whether or not they have a boyfriend and not on their intellectual achievements. Let me add some context.
This past weekend, I was at a family gathering and my aunt and uncle, not once but numerous times throughout the night, proceeded to ask me if my new car, which I had just bought a week earlier, helped me get a boyfriend. One, I don’t have a boyfriend. Two, my lack of a boyfriend isn’t a problem for me — I’m picky and I know it (Maybe LMFAO should turn that into a song). Finally, yes, aunt and uncle, my new car is going to bring all the boys to the yard. Seriously?!
Please, by all means, measure my worth based on my lack of boyfriend. Don’t congratulate me on graduating from college. Don’t congratulate me on having numerous internship and work experiences. Don’t congratulate me on the fact that I am currently exploring Master’s Degree programs. Don’t congratulate me on being a self-assured young woman.
I’m of the opinion that it’s better to know and love who you are before entering into a relationship, so you can find somebody that loves the you you love. Whereas, many people use relationships as a place to hide from who they really are. Not everyone, but some people do this. And, I’m not saying being in a relationship is a bad thing.
You get to decide how you want to live your life. Please take my anger and turn it into a celebration of you — celebrate anything and everything you love about yourself.
After all, if you don’t love yourself, then why would anyone else love you?
Remember, you decide how you want your life to be. Don’t define it based on what you think other people want to see or believe you should be doing.
Heck, I graduated from college in December and have yet to find a full-time job. In the meantime, I am working two part-time jobs, have an internship and volunteer at a local media organization. This works for me right now, and I know that it will lead to bigger and better outcomes in the future. Other people, believe otherwise and have other opinions but it’s not their life.
Decide who you want to be and how you want to live and don’t hold anything back. No regrets. And, more importantly, don’t mask who you are for the sanctity of a relationship.